It’s day 15 and I’m still going strong. Over the last 3 days I used a new computer program, expanded my culinary tastes and went an entire day without criticising anyone (something I haven’t done since uttering my first words!).
Lately I have noticed I’ve become very critical of things. I am very hard on myself and often feel that others don’t measure up either. This makes me a rather unpleasant person to be around. Firstly, being overly critical of myself means I am often pretty unhappy. My self-talk includes a lot of negative phrases including ‘don’t be so stupid, Stephanie’. No-one likes to be called stupid, even when it’s themselves doing the name calling, so in an effort to be nicer to me, I thought I’d try going a whole day without criticising myself. And to push it even further I decided I wouldn’t criticise anyone or anything else either.
Thursday’s 1 new thing turned out to be quite an eye-opener. By not allowing myself to focus on the negative, and deliberately stopping myself when my thoughts became critical, I found myself in a good mood. I also managed to get through a lot of work that day and ended up feeling glad of having such a productive day. Not criticising others was very cathartic too.
Instead of stewing on other’s perceived shortcomings, I just refocused my thoughts on my tasks. Don’t get me wrong, this was not a particularly easy exercise for me, but it was a rewarding one. It made me realise that I really do sweat the small stuff, and that it adversely affects my mood and behaviour. I noticed this especially on Friday when I let everything annoy and frustrate me again. I got home from work in quite a bad mood and fed up with everything. Writing this blog post has made me realise just how ridiculous my behaviour is –that I should not waste energy stressing over other people’s actions, especially when they have no idea there’s an issue in the first place!
I am definitely going to try and be less critical of everything (myself included) from now on.
Day 13. Friday’s 1 new thing was a fun one. I tried bubble tea. Lychee flavoured bubble tea to be exact.
Until quite recently I’d never heard of bubble tea. A speciality of Taiwan, bubble tea is a tea based drink made with fruit or milk and tapioca pearls (chewy little balls made predominantly of tapioca and brown sugar). The drink is served with a wide straw that the tapioca pearls can pass through, so you get a mouthful of tea and balls (ooh I say!) at same time. Do be careful that you don’t choke on the tapioca pearls, like I almost did.
I did quite enjoy my bubble tea, but in writing this blog post came across a number of articles that suggested there may be a link between tapioca balls and cancer. I do find this is type of thing tends to crop up quite often – there seems to be a new study linking foods to cancer almost every day. That said, I don’t think I’ll be drinking bubble tea on a regular basis, just in case.
On Saturday, I had computer training at work, so this was an easy new thing to come up with. I did some training on Adobe Indesign (a desktop publishing package) learning basic design skills. I to always enjoy learning new skills, especially computer packages as I believe the more you know, the more in demand you will be.
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